We are often our hardest critics, but that can sometimes hold us back.
This is a social experiment where people are asked how they would rate their level of “success” and the result is that we often seem  more successful to others than ourselves.

This project aims to redefine the word “success” in the modern dictionary.
According to Strayer University, 90% (!) of Americans associate success with happiness rather “the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect or fame”, which is the current dictionary definition of success.

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Young Spirit // Lingyi Lu


The moth is October and a new young spirit, Lingyi Lu, who will tell us about the importance of following your dreams and how she hopes to contribute to society.

Do you have any interests? 
Yes, I like music and playing badminton. I began to play the piano when I was four years old. At the first my parents pushed me into playing the piano but then in 6th grade my other friends began to appreciate the instrument and I too started to like the piano more.

Lingyi ChinaLL hong kong 

You have been an intern in China this summer, how did that feel? 
It was quiet interesting  and different but most of all it was instructive since you experience a new environment. Previously I had an internship at a Swedish bank and it is hard to compare Sweden with China on a work level. The companies in China are more specific and coherent when it comes to their guidelines/rules and their expectations on the employer and how each individual employer can reach the aims. Regular control is another thing that distinguish China from Sweden. Swedish companies tend to address the workers with a supervisor and when problem arise you are expected to tell your supervisor or present it in the meetings. In contrast, in China you are taught to approach the head manager and ask for advice and feedback.

Lingyi England

This fall you are also moving to England.
It is going to be fun and I am pretty excited about it especially when I am studying subjects that I prefer, behavioral economics and other subject on a broader international level. Above that it will be fun to learn about a new culture and enhance my English.  When I come back I most defiantly hope to achieve a personal development as well, and that I have reached an increased cultural knowledge about England. Let us not forget about the education, I hope I learn a lot. (laughter) Other than that, meeting new inspiring people is something I look forward to. My first weeks on collage will be a chaos with lots of activities and social gatherings.

lingyi family

This is also the first time I am away from my family for such long period of time, usually I visit my parents once in a month and now I will be away for six months straight!

“It is a big step but a necessary one.”

My parents are quiet protecting and I would like stand on my own feet, and step in to the more adult side of life which means higher responsibility and freedom.

How do you see the adult side of life?
I see responsibility, which I have experienced when moving away from my family a  year ago to a different city.

“More freedom means more responsibility. “

To be able to follow your own heart and the things you see as meaningful.


What is your goal in life the coming three years?
First of all, I would like complete my education and I would like to have a stable foundation. I have different plans that continue to change but one thing is certain I want do something that is meaningful for me, which is to help other people and contribute to the society.

Many people note that education does not give so much in order to enhance your knowledge but is a way to determine your ambition and effort. Often work is not any like the theory we learn about in school. I hope that the company that I decide to join has the same values and aims as I have, which is to help people and not only concern about the profit. I also know that it might be a bit naive have such high expectations on a company therefore I plan to work voluntarily as an side project. Education is going to help me to provide the help I would like to give.

Lingyi strong

When are you the strongest?
I am the strongest when I am surrounded by people that I love but also

“…when I dare to step outside my comfort zone.”

I have been trying to gradually to step outside my comfort zone and one of the things was to get my own place, and eventually moving to a new country.

Conversely, when you are the the weakest? 
When I get uncertain about what I want in life and its purpose. I have always been purposeful and when I can not see the aim I can feel a bit lost.

“However, I know that I want to do something meaningful and I believe I will find my passion.”

Have you ever thought about the meaning of life?
I believe it is a quiet personal thing and I can not speak for everyone. In my view I think the purpose in life is to contribute with something for the human kind and feel like you are doing something meaningful.

Describe life with one word.

[Noting in life is free and if you really want it and fight for it, you will achieve it.]

Lingyi in teen years.
I hope I will not be too old. Hopefully have a well balanced life and that my education have been meaningful. Last but not least, I hope to have develop and evaluated when it comes to things in my personal life.

 Which methods do you plan to contribute to society?
I have had different potential ideas or strategies, both big and small dreams depending on how strong I felt that moment. (laughter) Education is one way since children are the future society. Then I would contribute by being a teacher. At the same time, my parents are teachers as well and I feel that I am limiting myself if I choose the same path as them.

A more bigger dream would be that I am working for an international organization and be able to affect more in general. For an instance, fight for children´s rights.

Many young people have it hard to have dreams and aims in life, do you have any advice? 
I sometimes have the same problem and I use to look back in life and the achievement I have done, I believe the clues are there. I once heard an UN speaker say that a person will eventually find their core. I read the term ‘core’ as the passion one has in life and the thing you want to continue doing the rest of your life.

“I think that you can find the clues in your past that point out what really means a lot for you.”

Though,  there could be a chance that you have not get come across your passion before.  However, I usually reflect back in time and try to see the things that mattered the most for me and which parts you would like to include in your future.

child LingyiLingyi close up

Do you feel you are more consciousnesses than when you were younger?
I have thought a lot about how I am as an individual and I am not yet there. Though, I think there is a link between what I think is the purpose of my life and who I believe I am. Again, I try to reflect back and think in which situation I felt genuine and myself.

During my first year at University  as a mentor where I helped children what had parents no academic education. My aim was to motivate them to  study and fight. It felt meaningful and something I would like to do more of, I was happy to see the children every week and see them develop.

Key features to help children.
I think that first thing that is essential when it comes to educating children is to provide them with good self-esteem.

“The children need to know that they can do it and never ever tell them that they can not achieve a specific goal.”

Secondly, some children need that extra push from the teacher. A teacher that tells the child that they can do it if they really try and that the teacher is there for them for guidance.

I would like the children to be able to analyze and critic more.

Do you have any expectations on the world? 
I have lots of expectations on the world, I hope that our society becomes more human and that people take upon the concept of civil courage and help each other. Also, I would like to see a more environmental and sustainable development.

Any last words.

 ” One can not always be right, it is about daring to make mistakes. Take one step at a time and you will come a long way in life. Last but not least, dare to dream.”


Young Spirit // Lingyi Lu

Young Spirit // Poya Livälven

Poya Livälven


This month´s young spirit is Poya!

Do you have any interests?
I have a lot of interests; I am quiet evolved in social and political issues. Otherwise music and scientific literature also interests me. As a student I try to engage myself in different unions.
My interest in politics began a couple of years of go and since then I have met a lot of people and I have also become more aware of social and political issues. A big part of life is not only about sitting alone and studying but you also need that social contact, learn that we all are different. envolved poyaHave you always been so engaged?
The older I become the more engaged I happen to become. The reason might be that I have always been that person that give my fullest when it comes to school, I had lot of expectations and I wanted to go out high school with good grades. Now that I got accepted in university I applied for I feel I have more freedom to explore, be more social and do more of those stuff that I like. The education field that I have now chosen is a long one and if I only study it would not be that fun even though I might learn a lot.

“It is for my own sake so that I can create a balance between my studies and social life.”

piano poya

You also play a lot of instruments.
Piano is my main instrument but I also play a lot of other instruments like the guitar and I also sing. It is more of a hobby and defiantly something that contribute to the balance I aim to achieve.
I love music and I listen to it daily, I use it to express my feelings, it is a exercise where I can use my creativity. And that is good because if you only read scientific literature, you do not use your own creativity. I began to play piano when I was about eight years ago and I was more serious about music than what I am now because I also need to gibe time to my studies. Music is more of a hobby thing now.

What is your aim in life?

“My biggest aim in life is to become a good human being.”

I do not want to make history only for the reason to become famous, it would be fun but it is not my main focus. The reason that I chose to study medical was for the reason to help and change the small but important around me.

My interest to become a doctor has always been there since I was small, I have always liked the scientific but also to help people, and it is a combo that the medical field can provide for me. You are able to see people through different perspectives, through a social, chemical, biological and psychological view.

But of course the surrounding do have an impact, it is highly seen career and my parents have always encouraged me, not that they have pushed me but recommended that the role as a doctor would suit me. It is also that my families have had a lot of sick family members, my grandfather died due to a disease. My grandmother has diabetes. The issue about unfortunate health has always been there.

“Being surrounded by sick people and seeing how it affect the people around thee, I feel it would be fantastic to help by reducing the suffering and stress.”

Otherwise, I have a great interest to travel and as a doctor getting a job abroad is not hard, you have the guarantee of a good life. Not many people have the probability to get a job anywhere in the world. I would like to travel around the world, visit small villages and help the people there.

doctor poya

Was medical school what you expected it to be?
Yes and no. At first you believe that a doctor is like a super human, I you expect that they differ compared to other people.

“They are heroes but now I realize that doctors are like any body else, they have shortcomings, and they can be idiots or kind persons. Doctors can be insecure as any other working person.”

As a study field, it is fun but challenging. I have more of a realistic view on how doctors are now than before. It makes it more beautiful because you see that they are just ordinary people that decided to spend their time and energy on helping others.

purpose poya

What is your attitude towards life?
My attitude towards life is that you should live a honest life towards yourself. They have done a study when they ask people before they die what they regret the most, and a majority of the patients at a hospital answered that…

“… they regret living a life that they did not chose themselves but followed other people’s expectations and demands, that they never took the  decisions according to their opinion but based on other people´s opinions.”

This have turned out to affect me quite a lot lately, I try to eliminate everything that is destructive to the human kind politically, economically and so on. It is important to life an honest life, that you take decisions you want to proceed but that does not mean that you can be egoistic and hurt other people but you should not sacrifice yourself. In the end, the only person you will live with is no one else than yourself, friends come and go, and so does relations. It is a natural progress and one should not take life way too serious.

It is not always easy to live a honest way of life, personally I evolve myself quiet a lot when it comes to relationships and friends, I often sacrifice myself, and that exposes me to a great amount of disappointment when I do not receive the dedication back.

“However, it is stupid to have such high expectations on people, so lately I have stopped to have too high expectations on people.”

I have my values that I try to follow, it is not easy and I do not always succeed.

 When do you feel the strongest?
I feel the strongest when I do something I like or something that I am good at, when I gain confidence. It could involve my education, music or any other interest.

 In contrast, when you do feel the weakest?
As earlier mentioned, when friends and people disappoint me, I become low and moody. I am in need of having control and I have it hard to let go of things but lately I realize it is something you need to learn.

 Do you have any expectations on the world?
I have zero expectations on the world. People have no food or shelter, there are people living in horrible situations. My ideals and my expectations on the world are two different things.
As the world is now, based on a wrong economic principal where the resources are divided unfairly and where it is all about the survival of the fittest. We destroy the environment and the humans due to the fact that we strive for profits and we have a lot of greed. So I have no expectations whatsoever.

“The ideal would be that we use science to develop eco-friendly system, where everyone can live the life they want, do the things they care and love to do but also enjoy this world.”

This system is not created because people earn money on how this world looks today.


When is Poya satisfied?
When my companions can enjoy something I did and when I have helped someone. Or when I do something I love.
A perfect day would be spontaneous, eat well and just enjoy, taking day for day.

Traveling plays a vital role in your life.
Yes, it does because I have never learned as much as I have when traveling. A book in geography can tell you a lot but it is not until you stand there yourself and fully understand the people, the language and the cultural that you have seen that country.  One can really learn a lot from each other.

Have you ever thought about the purpose of life?
Of course, I have and I think it is a question that a lot of people have questioned. To be honest, I really do not think there is a great purpose life; I think it is as it is. We will never get the answer.
We need to take control of our own lives and not place it in someone else life, not politically or to a supernatural power. The purpose of life is a something one need to discover by your own.

“Like earlier mentioned my meaning of life is to be the best I can be by living an honest life.”

Describe life with one world.

We both love and hate each other. We try to help and at the same time destroy. It is a paradox. 

 Latest song.
Bohemian rhapsody- Queen.

Dinner or lunch
Fall or Spring
Movie or Book


Any last words to the people.
We live in a world that is quiet similar to the animal kingdom, where the smallest sign of weakness makes you vulnerable. It is all a competition about who is the best, the most attractive, the strongest and so on. We need understand that it does not need to be like that, we can create a world with a different state of mind. Our society is based on that the world has limited resources and that is the reason we compete with each other.

“You need to view the world with a critical eye, question everything. We should help each other and not take life too serious.”

Young Spirit // Poya Livälven

Find the Balance.


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Time over time we expect the world to fulfill our expectations. We either think that every person is bad so we hide away from the world. Or we think that every person cares for our good and end up hurt when  the opposite is reveled. The key is to keep a balance, never expect people to be something but let them proof themselves what they stand for and let their actions display their minds.  If your relationship do not go in symbiosis, try again if you really need to but otherwise accept it and let it go. We spend to much time trying to fix people and up losing ourselves. Surround yourself with good energy people, that´s all.

Image: Instagram Account ,  surfshotnoosa. 
Find the Balance.